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This is my father 'Ted'...

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William Edward Lees actually... he was born on New Year's Day 1927, and died on New Year's Eve 2001, a day before his 75th birthday - there aren't many people born on the first day of one year and die on the last day of another - he would've liked that!

 

He was nicknamed Ted by his family when he was younger because his father, my grandfather was also known as Bill, although his name was actually Joseph... please don't ask!

This is my mother Jill...

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This is my Mam - we have recently had to put her into a full-time resiedntial care home because she has entered the very late stages of Alzheimer's Disease, and this was only fair to her and my stepfather too...

 

...it all has become too much of a burden to deal with - and the same as I told my stepfather, without being callous, but meant with sincere emotion: 'sometimes, love isn't enough anymore'.

My family album...

...people who are and have been closest to my heart

This is my stepdad Mac...

 

Richard Arthur McMurdo actually... he was born in March 1943, and married my Mam on 20 October 1976 - they have been married ever since, and they have only just recently had to be parted because of the worsening condition of my mother's Alzheimer's Disease and the onset of my stepfather's too... they will be together very soon though in the carehome together if it is the last thing I ever do for them.

This is my nephew Roy...

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I have always looked after this lad, so he is like my son in more ways than one.

 

He lives with his partner and their three children, but until recently he used to live with me.

 

He was born on Christmas Day 1975 and has four children altogether, and a stepson with his present partner.

These are my twin sisters Jill and June...

 

This photo is of my eldest two sister, twins Jill and June taken with me on Christmas Day 2005. There is only 10 minutes separate Jill (left) and June (right) - with Jill being the eldest, and my Mam named her after herself, and June after the month  they were born...

 

...it wasn't until they were both born that my mother indeed knew she was having twins at all!

This is my sister Karen...

 

This photo is of the youngest of the first four of my parents' siblings - my sister Karen.

 

She was born in May 1955 and she has three children from her first husband who she married in 1974.

A little update...

It has been a very hectic few weeks since my mother was reunited with my stepfather, when he was finally granted full-time care by the social services - at long last, I have been able to look at my future, and what my plans are for myself.

 

My social worker came and saw me and we discussed what I would like to do and what I needed for the future... I have never really considered any of this before, because, to be frank, with the care needs of my Mam and stepdad, I never really thought about me.

 

We decided that along with the two hours care support package that I already have, to help me with my finances, shopping and money management, an additional four more hours would be added to this package per week, enabling me to be able to gout for an afternoon, with my support worker, and go on little jaunts, visit shopping malls, have a 'cuppa' in a cafe or restaurant etc... things that I am afraid I just cannot manage on my own - not only because of my Alzheimers, but also because of the restrictions caused by my Parkinson's Disease too.

 

This is something that I shall really look forward too - I don't go out anywhere because of my conditions, and so therefore these extra few hours support will make all the difference to me!

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